Why Can’t Television Shows Just Die Gracefully?

(Stop reading if you haven’t seen last night’s episode of Downton Abbey. Seriously. Stop.)

Back when I wrote this post about Arrested Development, it occurred to me that basically every single TV show I’ve ever loved has declined in quality over the years (the exception being Arrested Development itself, likely because it only lasted three short seasons – and even then, it had the debatable Charlize Theron arc). It seems all shows follow a familiar pattern: they tend to hit their creative peak around the second season, and then it’s just one long decline into mediocrity.

By way of illustration, let’s conduct a brief survey of the trajectory of some shows I have loved over the years:

  • Friends: For sentimental reasons, this is probably my all-time favorite show, but even I can concede that running ten seasons was excessive. The peak years were seasons 2-4 (season 4, in particular, stands out because of the trivia game and Chandler in a box). After that, the show became a never-ending series of increasingly implausible contrivances to keep Ross and Rachel apart. Sure, it was nice to see them finally get together at the end, but it would’ve been nicer still if I hadn’t had to wait ten damn years for that moment.
  • Alias: Seasons 1 & 2 were brilliant: the show was smart, fast-paced, exciting, and super-addictive. Then Alias went off the deep end by having Sydney “die” and Vaughn remarry the evil Lauren. I’m actually still not fully over that one. Vaughn, how could you?!?
  • The Office: Season 2 of The Office is, quite possibly, my all time favorite season of any TV show, ever. But the show declined in quality quickly, and I quit watching altogether sometime shortly after Pam and Jim got married. Now, the show is a shell of its former self, and I’m still baffled that they thought it was a good idea to continue after Steve Carrell left.
  • Lost: Much like Alias, this had a brilliant first two seasons. Then it delved into crazy mythology and became largely incomprehensible. I watched this through until the end, but by the time everyone reunited in that damn church, I had no freaking clue how we got there or what it all meant.
  • Grey’s Anatomy: Remember when this show was a perfect blend of medical ridiculousness and gut-wrenching melodrama? Those halcyon days when Izzie cut Denny’s LVAD wire, when Christina ran out on her wedding to Burke, and when Meredith did her “pick me, choose me, love me” speech? Then do you remember the days after that, when Izzie had sex with Denny’s ghost, Izzie and George “fell in love” (as if), and Izzie performed surgery on a deer in the Seattle Grace parking lot? Come to think of it, maybe we can blame this one entirely on Katherine Heigl.

Anyway, these are just a few examples – I can think of more (Gilmore Girls, The West Wing, Weeds, etc.). But all this is to say that it’s an obvious trend, and one that I know I’m not the first to point out. I get why it happens – if you’ve got a successful, money making show, I suppose any good TV executive would want to keep the money train rolling. I just wish it didn’t work that way. I wish TV shows were allowed to live out their natural creative lifespan and then die gracefully, well before we were treated to ridiculous spectacles like ghost sex on Grey’s and time jumping on Lost. Quite simply, I wish creativity trumped money. I mean, sure, I’d be bummed when an awesome show went off the air after just a few seasons, but in the long run, isn’t having a few great seasons more satisfying than watching something you once loved slowly devolve into really, really crappy television?

So, why am I talking about all this now? Well, recent developments on Downton Abbey have reinforced the idea to me. Namely, last night (or last December, if you watched it in the UK) Mary and Matthew had a baby, Matthew sped off in his fancy car to share the news with the family, and then you can guess what happened next: oopsies, he got in a car wreck, and before you know it, you’re watching the fake blood dripping down Dan Stevens’s face as a legion of Downton Abbey fans across the nation weeps. Womp womp:

dead matthew crawley

But here’s the thing: it didn’t have to play out this way. I remember, back when Downton first premiered, that there was talk of Julian Fellowes doing three seasons. Then the show’s popularity skyrocketed, and suddenly that plan went out the window. But what if it hadn’t? What if we had been treated to three well-plotted seasons, all working toward an endgame? The show might have been truly brilliant, but we’ll never know. Instead, the last two seasons have grown increasingly sloppy and haphazard, and now we have season four to look forward to, where we’ll watch the show cope with the loss of one-half of its defining couple. Plus, who knows how many more seasons we’ll have after that, and what crazy twists they’ll bring with them. (Note: This is not to say I’m above watching all of this unfold. I’m too invested now, so I’ll stick with the show to the end. Plus, even at its worst, I love Downton more than most things on TV).

I’ve read criticisms from outraged fans who actually blame Dan Stevens for leaving the show. This makes zero sense to me. In fact, I think he’s figured out something that most of the other folks involved with the production have not: that sometimes, it’s best just to call it a day. Maybe Stevens is the smart one for getting out now, while the show is still culturally relevant, as opposed to several years from now, when the magic will have worn off.

Did you watch last night’s episode of Downton? If so, what did you think of the loss of Matthew Crawley? And do you agree that it’s about time to wrap this show up?

(Image via The Daily Mirror)

A Festive Fourth

I had friends in town for the Fourth of July, and by the “Fourth” I mean Sunday to Wednesday, so my holiday stretched into four days of exploring Chicago, eating delicious meals, and – lets be honest – hating the weather (it hit 100 degrees here). Despite the overwhelming heat, we managed to see and do a ton. I’ll be blogging about many of these adventures in more detail, but here’s a look at my fourth of July (and really, my first and second and third of July too).

Things That Are Awesome, Vol. 32

(Image via Vanity Fair)

The weekly roundup of internet awesomeness:

  1. These hand-painted walls are stunning. I wish I could do something like that!
  2. Friends is probably the defining show of my pop culture life thus far – so, naturally, I found this story about how it came to be fascinating.
  3. Hands down, the best collection of Draw Something sketches ever – Ignore Hitler. So good.
  4. As someone with Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and a blog, this post resonated with me: Being “Camera-Ready.” I especially loved this: “How does one advise someone to put down the camera phone for a while and just enjoy the moment? To stop waiting for that imaginary audience’s approval?”
  5. I do not particularly care for Simon Cowell, but this is adorable: Maude Apatow (daughter of Judd) interviews him. Awww!
  6. 27 Yoga Positions Demonstrated by Animals. So adorable!
  7. I love that, within like an hour of the news breaking, this tumblr had already popped up: When Obama Endorsed Marriage Equality. Oh, internet. You are awesome.
  8. Pretty sure I’ve mentioned it before, but Diane von Furstenberg is definitely one of my favorite people, ever. Her collaboration with the Gap is wonderful. I love what she says in the commercial: “To empower a little girl is to empower the woman she will become.”
  9. Everything I Need to Know, I Learned from When Harry Met Sally. Fun fact: this is perhaps my all-time favorite movie. And this article is straight up truth.
  10. I absolutely love this: Ideal Bookshelf. The artist paints a picture of your very favorite books, aka your ideal bookshelf. I totally want to buy one of these one day! And I’m already thinking about what books I’d put on it…

And in case you missed it: Check out the Awesome Archives.

Things That Are Awesome, Vol. 29

(Image via Chandler Dances on Things)

The weekly roundup of fabulous internet finds:

  1. I love this commercial for White House Black Market. Coco Rocha is the best.
  2. Chandler Dances on Things is my new favorite website, ever. Mini-wave in celebration of me!
  3. This week’s cute animal article – 33 Animals Who Are Extremely Disappointed in You.
  4. Oh wait, one more – Animals with casts. Awww, I just want to hug them all.
  5. File this under “things that are adorable”: Interview with a One-Year-Old.
  6. These pictures are pretty accurate – how I envisioned the American legal system last August, and how I see it now.
  7. What if your dog sent you texts? It would be something like this, and it would be awesome.
  8. 50 People You Wish You Knew in Real Life. Yep. This article cracked me up. So good.
  9. Mitch Albom’s anecdote about the Michigan Men’s Glee Club made me smile: “And this, out-of-staters, is what can happen when you live in Michigan. Sometimes, when you’re feeling blue, all you need is a little maize.”
  10. So, I watch Dancing with the Stars every week (yeah, yeah, major guilty pleasure). I love DWTS because it is, hands down, the cheesiest show on television. One of my favorite weekly rituals? Reading EW.com’s “DWTS Hidden Gems” column. It’s always funny, but I thought this week’s was particularly good (probably because there were three references to Ross Geller).

Want more awesome? Check out the archives.

St. Patty’s Day in Boston

I’ve never gone all out for St. Patrick’s Day, but this year, I did something cool – I flew to Boston for the weekend to meet up with friends. St. Patty’s Day (and the whole weekend) was filled with great friends, lots of laughs, delicious food, and green as far as the eye can see. Boston is an amazing city and 48 hours there was simply not enough. I know I’ll be going back soon.

Here are some snapshots from the weekend (I’ll do a few more detailed posts about some of the places we went later).

  • Row 1: Starting the day at Dillon’s, having Chocolate Mint Donuts for breakfast (healthy), celebrating our inner Irish
  • Row 2: Enjoying green beers at Pour House, rocking embarrassing glasses at Back Bay Social Club, walking near Faneuil Hall
  • Row 3: Surviving pure chaos on the T, snapping the green signage at Pour House, and sipping from shiny green containers at Dillon’s

Hope your St. Patty’s Day was fantastic!

Four Hours in Detroit

One thing I’ve been thinking about lately is how I’ve lived in southeastern Michigan for roughly 23 years out of my 26 on earth, and yet I’ve only gone to Detroit a handful of times – and basically just to go to Comerica Park (and Eastern Market once).

Randomly, last weekend, two friends and I decided to go explore Detroit for a few hours. What I loved about this was that we did both tourist-y things (like the Ren Cen and RiverWalk) and completely non-tourist-y things (like driving through some of the neighborhoods where my friend works). We saw the good stuff and the bad stuff, and though Detroit always gets a bad rap – there is lots of good stuff. I won’t pretend to magically understand Detroit after a few hours, but I’m glad I saw a little more this time around.

Along the RiverWalk:

The Ren Cen:

Around Hart Plaza:

The Spirit of Detroit Statue:

The Guardian Building:

Eastern Market:

Dequindre Cut:

Packard Plant:

Heidelberg Project:

The old Detroit train station:

Comerica Park + Astro Coffee:

My Weekend in Photos

My weekends lately have been filled with more reading and writing and internship-applying than fun times, but this past weekend was an exception. Some old friends from college were in town and we had a wonderful time – catching up, eating delicious food, taking a million silly pictures, cheering on a Michigan basketball victory over OSU, and exploring both Ann Arbor and Detroit. I’ll have a couple more detailed posts in upcoming days, but for now – here’s a look at the weekend in photos.

  • Row 1: Dying to buy this hat for my puppy, making a new friend at M-Den, eating a salted caramel cupcake from the Cupcake Station, and celebrating with a birthday cupcake
  • Row 2: Buying coordinating earrings from Ten Thousand Villages, spotting Michigan-themed cherry candies, having cocktails at the Jolly Pumpkin, and snapping the cute sign at Cherry Republic
  • Row 3: Hanging out at Bar Louie with 727 alums, loving this Detroit-themed tee shirt, stopping by Comerica Park, and walking along the River Walk in downton Detroit
  • Row 4: Posing for a picture on the Detroit RiverWalk, admiring the sculptures near the Ren Cen, crouching under the gigantic hand, and generally loving Detroit
  • Row 5: Browsing Detroit-themed tee shirts, chatting with Barack, shopping at Eastern Market, exploring Packard Plant
  • Row 6: Finding a gigantic pile of old shoes at Packard Plant, looking skyward, hanging out at the Heidelberg Project, and agreeing there’s no place like Detroit
  • Row 7: Following the Yellow Brick Road at the Heidelberg Project, loving brightly painted piano keys, sipping lattes at Astro Coffee, and stocking up on Girl Scout cookies
  • Row 8: Enjoying a cocktail at the Jolly Pumpkin, making a midday Starbucks stop, loving the view of Detroit from Belle Isle, and hanging (precariously) from the Cube

Great Christmas Moments in Pop Culture

I had fun compiling my list of Thanksgiving pop culture moments, and as I was thinking about it, I realized there are many (many) more for Christmas. So, herein, my very favorite pop culture Christmas gems:

Beth Gets Her Piano (Little Women): If you can watch this scene without tearing up, you have no heart. It gets me every time – I think it’s mostly because of the way Claire Danes plays the scene. Her reaction is just so spot-on, overwhelmed and confused and overjoyed, all at the same time.

“Just In Cases” (Love Actually): Well, first of all, this scene involves Colin Firth, so that’s pretty much enough to merit inclusion right there. But, in case you weren’t convinced – I love how this scene builds up – how he goes to her home and she’s not there, and then he walks through town (trailed by random Portuguese family members and townsfolk), and then he goes to the restaurant and sees her standing upstairs. And then afterward, when he says, “You learned English?” and she responds, “Just in cases.” Perfect.

Pam’s Teapot (The Office): This was at the height of the heartbreaking Jim/Pam dynamic on the Office, and it was yet another one of those moments that was so lovely but at the same time so gut-wrenching. Basically, Jim draws Pam’s name in Secret Santa, and he gets her the most perfectly sweet gift, and then Michael messes things up (per usual) and turns it into a Yankee swap, and Dwight ends up with the teapot, and Pam has to trade an iPod to get it back, but she does (because we know that she secretly loves Jim, even though she might not know it yet) (and that was the most run-on sentence I’ve ever written).

In Excelsis Deo (The West Wing): The season 1 Christmas episode still gives me chills, particularly the last scene. The burial part is just executed perfectly, and then I love how, in the parallel scene, the senior staff lines up one by one to listen to the choir. Not shown in the video I linked is another great little moment – when Josh gives Donna, who has been bothering him the entire episode about getting her a present, a book with a sweet inscription in it. Great moment. (And man, did it take forever for those two to get together or what?!)

All I Want for Christmas Is You (Love Actually): This is sort of the big climax scene, where most of the characters come together at a children’s Christmas show. I love when they sing “All I Want for Christmas Is You,” because the little girl totally kills it. I mean, even better than Mariah, I think (sacrilege!). Anyway, I also love how the curtain comes up on Hugh Grant and his assistant making out, but not for the reason you think. What kills me is Alan Rickman’s reaction shot in the audience – cheering and whistling. I don’t know why, but I always find that so funny. Maybe because I always think of him as a serious, stuffy British actor, but in this scene he’s anything but.

The Reindeer Jumper (Bridget Jones’s Diary): Okay, I believe this scene technically takes place on New Year’s Day, but it’s still the holiday season so I’m counting it (plus, reindeer clearly equals Christmas). This is the moment that establishes Mr. Darcy as a complete dork, and even though he’s kind of jerk in this scene, you just know he’s going to turn out wonderful. I also love that this scene introduces Bridget’s propensity for extremely awkward over-sharing (“Was at a party in London last night, I’m afraid I’m a bit hungover…Wish I could be home with my head in a toilet like all normal people…”)

Exchanging Presents (While You Were Sleeping): I think this is one of the most underrated romantic comedies (and movies) ever. It stars a pre-fame Sandra Bullock, and I just love it, even though it has basically the cheesiest setup ever. I particularly love the scene where she goes over to the Callaghan family’s home to exchange Christmas presents. I think the look on Sandra Bullock’s face is just perfect – she doesn’t have any family of her own, and so she feels both happy and sad at being included in this family’s tradition. Also, Bill Pullman is really cute in this movie (which is not something I ever thought I’d say).

Phoebe’s Christmas Song (Friends): I think Friends truly excelled during its Thanksgiving episodes, but it had some solid Christmas moments too. Because I always love a good Phoebe song, I have to give props to her Christmas song. I also love how, in desperation because their names don’t rhyme with anything, she just does a crazy amount of mumbling after saying “Chandler and Rachel.” (Earlier, to Rachel: “Do you have a nickname? Did your dad ever call you, like, Budolph?”)

Tim + Dawn (British Office): It’s natural to draw comparisons between the British and American versions of the Office, but to me, their approaches are so different that I just like to view them on their own terms. The Christmas episode was the last of this show, and it just wraps everything up wonderfully – you think Tim and Dawn are going to have a bittersweet ending, and then she comes back, and it’s just amazing.

Somewhere in My Memory (Home Alone): How could I leave this movie off my list? For any child who grew up in the ’90s, this was the essential Christmas movie. In particular, I love the scene where Kevin goes to church and bonds with the shovel guy, who we learn is actually a nice man. In the background, a children’s choir sings “Somewhere in My Memory,” which is one of my favorite Christmas songs. So beautiful.

Turn on the Lights (New Girl): Yeah, this show is brand new, but I already love it. New Girl is the king (queen?) of funny situations turned unexpectedly poignant, and the Christmas episode was no exception. To cheer up Jess, Nick drove her through a neighborhood with great decorations. The only catch? It was 4am, so everybody had their lights turned off. The gang got out of the car and started yelling “turn on the lights” – and, wouldn’t you know, one by one, everyone on the street turned on their lights. And it was a lovely little moment. (And on a totally different note, this episode also gave us Schmidt as Sexy Santa. Love it.)

Index Card I Love You (Love Actually): Yes, this is my third Love Actually Moment on this list; what of it? Anyway, one of my favorite things about Love Actually is that it isn’t a romantic comedy where everyone winds up happily ever after – sure, some stories do, but plenty do not. This story is one of the ones that does not, and even though Mark and Juliet reach closure, it’s still sad. This scene, where he knows they can’t be together but still tells her how he feels (“because at Christmas, you tell the truth”) is impossibly romantic and terribly bittersweet.

(above photo collage from here)

Christmas Football (Miracle): This is another severely underrated movie. I love this scene because it captures the camaraderie among the players so well and I think it also captures how much the coach cares for them, even if he can’t always express it. Also, I love the Carter speech overlaid with them playing football. So nice.

Caroling for Abed (Community): I could have picked a moment from any of Community’s three Christmas episodes – season one’s Christmas fight was great, and season two’s claymation Christmas was the epitome of brilliance. But I give the prize to season three, when the gang arrives at Abed’s apartment, singing a carol and preventing him from spending the holiday alone. An unexpectedly sweet moment, and one made all the more poignant by the fact that the show is on indefinite hiatus now (sob.)

What are your favorite Christmas pop culture moments?

Five Things That Make Me Feel Old

Okay. I will preface this by saying I’m fully aware that I’m 25 and that 25 is not old. But…

It seems like there’s been a huge wave of ’90s nostalgia lately. I’m all for this; though I was alive in the ’80s (for a few brief years during toddler-dom), I could never really connect with ’80s nostalgia that seemed prevalent because, clearly, I can’t remember the ’80s. But ’90s stuff? That I get. That’s my childhood.

However, the thing about all this nostalgia is that, at some point, you start to realize all these things you remember so vividly (‘N Sync! Dawson’s Creek! Beanie Babies!) happened well over a decade ago. And once that realization sets in, it hits you. You’re getting old.

I saw this article the other day – “40 Things That Will Make You Feel Old” – and it perfectly taps into that feeling. Almost every single thing on that list is something I totally identify with.

The list also got me thinking, and in almost no time, I came up with a few of my own things that make me feel really, really old. I know if I pondered this question for longer, I could come up with way more, but for now – here are the five things that make me feel super ancient.

One: I’m as old as the characters in Friends

This is the one I find the most disturbing. A few months ago, it hit me – in Friends, season 1, they are all 25 or 26. And I’m 25! What? How did that happen? Seriously, I’ve been watching Friends since it first came on the air (like 17 years ago, oh my god), and it never really dawned on me that I’d catch up with (and surpass them) one day. Insanity, I tell you.

Two: Clueless is now as old as Cher was in the movie

Yes, Clueless came out 16 years ago. 16! How is that even possible? Clueless was, hands down, one of the most beloved movies of my childhood and one of my go-to sleepover movies for years (along with Now and Then, which is also fantastic). The thing I love about Clueless is, to this day, the movie holds up well. Paul Rudd is still adorable. Alicia Silverstone is still the perfect mix of ditzy and lovable. And the jokes are still funny (some, by the way, are made even funnier by the passage of time – for instance, Cher’s reference to “Marky Mark taking time out of his busy pants-dropping schedule” always makes me smile because Mark Wahlberg is allegedly a serious actor now).

Three: JTT is a thirty-year-old

Okay, I’m not proud to admit it, but back in the day (i.e., late elementary to early middle school), we were all about those completely vapid teeny-bopper magazines – Teen Beat, Tiger Beat, etc. Though many crushes were developed in those days (hello, Devon Sawa! Where have you been lately, Rider Strong?), the king of them all was Jonathan Taylor Thomas, affectionately known as JTT. And now, he’s in his thirties, and my mind is blown.

Four: Jonathan Lipnicki can legally drink

You remember Jonathan Lipnicki, right? The super cute kid from Jerry Maguire, who knew that the human head weighed eight pounds? Well, should you run into him at bar one day, you could buy him a drink. Odd. Also, even odder – he’s apparently, like, a body builder now. Yikes.

Five: There are way too many American Girl Dolls

I remember the glory days, when Felicity, Kirsten, Samantha, and Molly were the only American Girl dolls. I don’t know about you, but American Girl dolls were huge in my world (and, not that you asked, but I had Molly – and, apparently, many other girls did too). I prefer to remember American Girl in its early heyday, where only these four dolls existed. But then…the American Girl empire began to expand. They added Addy. That was fine. Then they added Josefina. That started to feel like a bit much. Then Kit came along. That was over the line. Who wants a Great Depression-era doll anyway? What a downer. And now there are a ton more, plus a bajillion “modern” girl dolls. Too far, American Girl. Too far. Go back to a simpler time and place, please, where all we had to worry about was Molly raising money to buy war bonds and Kirsten wearing a (highly-flammable, I’d suspect) wreath of candles on her head in celebration of St. Lucy’s Day.

Great Thanksgiving Moments in Pop Culture

One thing that will become abundantly clear on this blog in the next month or so is that I really love the holidays. Christmas especially, but I have to give props to Thanksgiving as well. On that note, one thing I particularly enjoy is holiday themed movies, TV episodes, and music. Here are some of my favorite Thanksgiving pop culture moments (note: anything that pre-dates the 90s, I am only vaguely familiar with. Thus, this list is pretty 90s/00s heavy.)

Turkey Pardoning (The West Wing): This episode (Shibboleth) is all-around excellent, and much deeper than the scene I’m about to discuss. But, the best Thanksgiving-y part of the episode is CJ trying to choose the turkey the President must pardon – and being unable to choose which one gets to live, and which one must die (“The more photo-friendly of the two turkeys gets a Presidential pardon and a full life at a children’s petting zoo; the other one gets eaten.”) I also love the part of the episode where President Bartlett gives Charlie his turkey-carving knife – awwwww!

Chandler in a Box (Friends): There are so many Friends Thanksgiving episodes to choose from, but this one is my very favorite (and probably my favorite Friends episode ever, period). Matthew Perry literally spends the entire episode in the box, and still manages to be hilarious (Why is Chandler in the box? “Joey had reasons.” “They were threefold.”) Also note that a pre-Alias Michael Vartan makes an appearance and looks tasty while doing it.

Sydney and Friends (Alias): Speaking of Alias, I love Sydney’s Thanksgiving dinner with all her friends. It’s not necessarily because it’s a big, special Thanksgiving episode (it isn’t), but I love it because it gives poor Sydney Bristow a moment to be…gasp…happy. Seriously, girl went through so much nonsense on the show that it was good to see her with her friends, celebrating, and actually laughing and lighthearted for once. Not that it would ever last…

Blair Waldorf Must Pie (Gossip Girl): Though I am somewhat ashamed to admit it, I do watch Gossip Girl on occasion. And, indeed, their season 1 Thanksgiving episode is pretty great, for two reasons: one, the van der Woodsens travel far outside their Upper East Side cocoon to Brooklyn (so awkward) and two, the episode flashes back to last year’s Thanksgiving, featuring drunk Serena (and drunk Serena = way better than normal Serena). The episode also ends with two surprisingly sweet (for Gossip Girl) moments: the Humphrey family playing football together and the van der Woodsen clan sharing stories over french fries at a Brooklyn diner.

My Two Greatest Enemies (Friends): Even though seeing this always reminds me that Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston got divorced (and that’s kinda sad), it’s still a great episode. It also has one of my favorite lines ever, courtesy of Brad Pitt’s Will: “My two greatest enemies, Ross. Rachel Green and complex carbohydrates.” Other great moments: “You’re the hermaphrodite cheerleader from Long Island?!,” Phoebe hugging Brad Pitt, and Joey eating an entire turkey by himself (“What was I thinking? Jeans have no give!”)

Locate, Justify, Hide (Cougar Town): Both the season 1 and 2 Thanksgivings are great, but I particularly love season 1 – it has so many great small moments. For example: Jules’s pre-Black Friday scouting trip strategy (locate, justify, hide), the cul-de-sac crew’s “Hi, Kylie!” serenade, the guys’ pseudo-macho pickup basketball game, and Laurie requesting a glass of half red/half white wine (classy).

Happy Thanksgiving!